So when I first became engaged this past July, I hit the ground running...and by running I mean in a Usane-Bolt-kind-of-way. Everyone thought I was crazy to lock in our venue, church, photographer, band, color-scheme, etc, so quickly. I had a method to my madness - I did NOT want to be tackling wedding to-do's over the holidays (specifically the time between Thanksgiving and New Year's). Truth be told, I am glad I did it my way - it has left me with a fair amount of sanity (thought some might argue differently), and time with my fiance!
Also - any future bride to be can go loony over the bountiful choices that bombard engaged couples. So, I offer my helpful tidbits.
*Disclaimer: I am not a wedding planner with years of experience, but I am a bride that very much believes in a gut instinct and not getting roped into too many choices or busting the bridal budget!*
1. Limit the number of people that accompany you to various key appointments. These are meetings such as bridal gown browsing, venue searching, and florist visits. More people=more opinions=harder to decipher what YOUR (and your fiance's) true feelings are! Originally I felt bad that I did not include more people in my decisions, but now I am happy I decided while I knew what I wanted, and not what everyone else thought I wanted...
2. If it looks good, feels good, and seems good, it probably is...and you should book it! I could have looked at a dozen venue sites - but the golf course where he proposed had a site that overlooked our proposal site - hello??? Of COURSE I made it easy and toured the reception site, asked the questions, looked at the budget, etc....when it all matched - I said "yes!"
3. Don't feel the need to compare/contrast your friend's weddings to yours, and don't "outdo" anyone else! I have a close friend who was desperate to make sure her wedding was perfect and stood up against her friend's nuptials. The truth is, after the happy couple says their vows, seals it with a kiss, dines and toasts with guests, and tears it up on the dance floor - the other "extras and decor" are just icing on the proverbial cake. If it doesn't have a special meaning to you, don't spend the money to impress your friends. They are already impressed you have found a love so great you want to spend forever with that person - so just be happy!
These are my loose wedding planning commandments, and I vow (as a present bride-to-be) to do my best to hold true to them!
What about you guys? Any tidbits your friends and family shared to keep you sane through the planning process? Anything you wish they would have said?
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